More Bad Wifery, or "It's been over a week!"
Somewhere, pigs are flying.
George W. Bush is listening to Wu-Tang Clan.
The Fashion Industry is pledging to make plus-size designing a priority.
The end is near.
Know how I know?
Because I, Gina D, am repulsed by sex. The evidence:
- Haven't seen porn in a month.
- I've only been working on the erotic novel I started because I'm so bored.
- I'd rather sleep than think up fantasies.
- I fake sleep so C. won't bother me with sex requests when he's home.
- I dread C. being home because I know aforementioned requests are coming.
- I don't remember where the Joes are. Nightstand? pantyhose drawer? Who knows? (and worse, who cares?)
- I actually thought about putting on lingerie and laughed out loud, then pulled out a pair of sweatpants and slept in those.
now that last statment should give an idea of just how bad things have gotten.
Last week, I had a good excuse for not doing anything. But that's over with now, and so the begging has started again. Which I despise. And am having to go to bed earlier and earlier just to say that I'm sleeping or at least, too tired to. I'll have to step my game up the next couple of weeks and just not be home when he is.
The positive side: There's incentive to work late and find a nighttime job!
This morning, I was sneaking out of the shower, hoping he wouldn't come running in while I was naked and try anything, and thought "If he got sex from someone else, I wouldn't be mad."
And I wouldn't. Who could blame him? And if she liked the way he did it, more power to her. We could still be married, have our house together, and he could do what he had to do. No problem.
I wish I remembered how to want it. I just don't.
I asked about it on a message board and this is what I got in reply:
How long is a reasonable amount of time for an SO to be okay with "not tonight, honey"?He's tired of hearing it -- I'm tired of saying it -- we're at an impasse. I've explained to him it's likely the BCP (and I don't start the new ones until probably the end of the month). I'm just tired of hearing the "But it's been [x amount of time]!"I don't know how else to put it. I don't want to fake it. I don't want to do something I don't have any interest in. I don't want to 'take one for the team."I really don't know what to do -- we're at a complete impasse.
Um. r/o KateyDid 12/15/2005 11:18:00 AM
Help him out manually? Or orally? Try to see if you can get into it, and if not finish him off in one of these ways? I don't think people should have to have sex when they don't want to, but I sympathise with him too - I'd go nuts if I was in a relationship but not getting any. It's not your fault, obviously, but it's tough for him too.
Sometimes you just have to be willing to be willing.It's like exercise, you may not feel rop goddessintraining 12/15/2005 11:15:00 AM
"motivated" to do it, but sometimes you can't wait for motivation! Once you get started, your body kicks in and you are "motivated"....give it a try...get a good, long warm up from him first - that will help!
Just do it, once things get started, you'll more than likely have fun. brckhous2002 12/15/2005 11:14:00 AM
you don't have to fake an O, but maybe say that you'd be willing to go to the bedroom ro marin79 12/15/2005 11:12:00 AM
and try to get in the mood for a certain period of time. sometimes you just have to get in there and get things started and then you enjoy it.I don't know- I don't think you should have to have sex you don't want, but it is fair of him to expect sex every so often imo.
I don't really know. It depends on the person. were you fairly active in the past? alicemf 12/15/2005 11:11:00 AM
Just start, and you'll probably get right into it. icyblonde 12/15/2005 11:10:00 AM
2nd, you may not want it , but you may find you enjoy it when you do start up catx 12/15/2005 11:12:00 AM
WTF??
Am I the only one who sees anything wrong with this??
Apparently so.
So yeah, again ...I'm a bad wife.
George W. Bush is listening to Wu-Tang Clan.
The Fashion Industry is pledging to make plus-size designing a priority.
The end is near.
Know how I know?
Because I, Gina D, am repulsed by sex. The evidence:
- Haven't seen porn in a month.
- I've only been working on the erotic novel I started because I'm so bored.
- I'd rather sleep than think up fantasies.
- I fake sleep so C. won't bother me with sex requests when he's home.
- I dread C. being home because I know aforementioned requests are coming.
- I don't remember where the Joes are. Nightstand? pantyhose drawer? Who knows? (and worse, who cares?)
- I actually thought about putting on lingerie and laughed out loud, then pulled out a pair of sweatpants and slept in those.
now that last statment should give an idea of just how bad things have gotten.
Last week, I had a good excuse for not doing anything. But that's over with now, and so the begging has started again. Which I despise. And am having to go to bed earlier and earlier just to say that I'm sleeping or at least, too tired to. I'll have to step my game up the next couple of weeks and just not be home when he is.
The positive side: There's incentive to work late and find a nighttime job!
This morning, I was sneaking out of the shower, hoping he wouldn't come running in while I was naked and try anything, and thought "If he got sex from someone else, I wouldn't be mad."
And I wouldn't. Who could blame him? And if she liked the way he did it, more power to her. We could still be married, have our house together, and he could do what he had to do. No problem.
I wish I remembered how to want it. I just don't.
I asked about it on a message board and this is what I got in reply:
How long is a reasonable amount of time for an SO to be okay with "not tonight, honey"?He's tired of hearing it -- I'm tired of saying it -- we're at an impasse. I've explained to him it's likely the BCP (and I don't start the new ones until probably the end of the month). I'm just tired of hearing the "But it's been [x amount of time]!"I don't know how else to put it. I don't want to fake it. I don't want to do something I don't have any interest in. I don't want to 'take one for the team."I really don't know what to do -- we're at a complete impasse.
Um. r/o KateyDid 12/15/2005 11:18:00 AM
Help him out manually? Or orally? Try to see if you can get into it, and if not finish him off in one of these ways? I don't think people should have to have sex when they don't want to, but I sympathise with him too - I'd go nuts if I was in a relationship but not getting any. It's not your fault, obviously, but it's tough for him too.
Sometimes you just have to be willing to be willing.It's like exercise, you may not feel rop goddessintraining 12/15/2005 11:15:00 AM
"motivated" to do it, but sometimes you can't wait for motivation! Once you get started, your body kicks in and you are "motivated"....give it a try...get a good, long warm up from him first - that will help!
Just do it, once things get started, you'll more than likely have fun. brckhous2002 12/15/2005 11:14:00 AM
you don't have to fake an O, but maybe say that you'd be willing to go to the bedroom ro marin79 12/15/2005 11:12:00 AM
and try to get in the mood for a certain period of time. sometimes you just have to get in there and get things started and then you enjoy it.I don't know- I don't think you should have to have sex you don't want, but it is fair of him to expect sex every so often imo.
I don't really know. It depends on the person. were you fairly active in the past? alicemf 12/15/2005 11:11:00 AM
Just start, and you'll probably get right into it. icyblonde 12/15/2005 11:10:00 AM
2nd, you may not want it , but you may find you enjoy it when you do start up catx 12/15/2005 11:12:00 AM
WTF??
Am I the only one who sees anything wrong with this??
Apparently so.
So yeah, again ...I'm a bad wife.
posted by Gina at 11:18 AM
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